My 17-year old daughter is my angel. My princess. My little
lambykins. I love her more than life itself. I was there when she was born. I
cut her umbilical cord. I bottle-fed her when my wife slept and did diaper duty
for nearly 4 years. I was a stay-at-home dad who worked as a freelancer on and
off for the better part of a decade. So when I found out that she had gone to a
party, got black-out drunk and ended up pregnant the summer before her senior
year, my whole life crumbled.
We spent the better part of that summer trying to pull her
out of a depression and made a decision—as a family—to have her abort the
child. It wasn’t an easy one to make. This is my little girl. She was
date-raped and now had to get an abortion. These are the things you see on a
Lifetime movie or on an episode of CSI.
I will admit that I was more than a little disappointed. I
was angry. I was ashamed. I was embarrassed—especially when I found out that the
rapist also took a photo of her passed out naked on her phone? Did he take one
on his? Was he showing it around? Did
anyone else attack her or take a picture?
I spent the summer searching the Internet for “amateur
pictures and amateur videos of real teen girls”. It didn’t make me feel good.
As a teen and younger man—even an older man—I’d enjoyed plenty of porn, but now
that I had a teen daughter who was raped … I just couldn’t believe I ever liked
it. All of my searches came up negative—thankfully. But that doesn’t mean a
photo or video of her isn’t out there.
After things settled down, my wife and I came to the
decision to install an app that lets you see someones text messages on her iPhone. Yes, a cell phone
spy app. I’m not the least bit sorry or hesitant about it. In fact, I would
recommend that everyone do this for all
of their kids. I put this app called Auto Forward on her phone so that I can
check her calls, texts, social media usage and her pictures and videos.
Truthfully, I won’t be doing much checking myself. I don’t think I can stomach
seeing what she may do someday—and I really don’t feel right about it. But
she’s my baby, and I’m going to make sure no one ever harms her again.
The app for seeing someones text messages will also let me activate her phone’s camera and
microphone. If she ever goes to a party again—and she will, I know—I can at
least turn those on in order to take a picture of her environment and listen in
on her surroundings to confirm that she’s okay. If she’s not, I can find her on
the app’s GPS locater.
I’m still searching the Internet to make sure no one ruins
my daughter’s reputation. I do it almost every day. I know I can’t always be
there for her, but I’ll do my best. You should too. Don’t wait until it’s too
late like I did. Look into a mobile spy app to view someones text messages before you’re kid does something
they may regret for the rest of their life.
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